I’m not usually saying it to the patient, I’m saying it to their family. On occasion I will tell the patient in the sense of “you shouldn’t feel bad for telling your family to
fuck offrespect your boundaries, you deserve to take care of yourself.”HR also told me after I got diagnosed with stress due to work. Then made a follow up meeting to see what I was doing on my spare time to reduce my stress.
Job searching, that’s what I was doing.
Isn’t job searching famously stressful?
Yes, it is. But unlike a few years ago I don’t have to go through every hoop because I needed to afford food, I’m going for an improvement. And there’s something cathartic to be applying for jobs during my current work hours.
Edit: one thing I realized is that there are a lot of things that seem to be against “relax” that actually decrease stress. Letting a deliverable slip was a massive source of stress, but in fact it’s less stressful than over do myself. Changing jobs has been so far a massive improvement for me mental health, even with the scars still present. The effort was worthy for me, I was lucky in that sense
It’s a lot less stressful when it’s on your own terms
Get into a difficult romantic relationship, you’ll forget all about the societal doom
Sidebar I know SSRIs are helpful and at times lifesaving but goddamn the tradeoffs can take a toll on the people who love you. Prozac/Strattera is a hell of a combo. I miss my girlfriend.
God I hated straterra. That shit only ever did bad things for me.
Vomiting every day like clockwork and a high libido with no ability to achieve orgasm, but in return you get hyper focus that you can’t turn off cause the stuff never stops affecting you. Sure I missed my SO, but I missed my old self too. I guess it’s alright if you can’t be trusted with stimulants and really need the help but I’ll never take it again
How bout a prescription to stop doom scrolling. I feel like it’d take at least that to get my damn phone out of my hands.
I prescribe you to stop doom scrolling
HOLY SHIT I’M CURED
Bad news. My doom scroll is contagious
OH SHIT
and it’s spread by farts. what the hell dude
“what the hell dude” croaked the HeyThisIsntTheYMCA. “Now we shall both die! Why did you fart on me?”
“I could not help it,” said the Fartographer, as they both sank beneath the post feed. “It is my nature.”
“lol get rekt, smell my brand” cried Fartographer in victory
“if I’m going down I’m bringing you with me”
Yikes! How’d you find a video of me?!
I love Lemmy for that, you can’t doomscroll very much here.
They say that so they don’t have to figure out what’s actually wrong with you in the corporate-designated 15 minute appointment
That is a delightful link.
I don’t think they mean “stop surviving”. They mean, if something extra would normally be extra stressful, like going to a friend’s wedding or hosting in laws for a week, tell them no. Or even just tell your boss “no” now and then. Say you can’t get that done in a week, refuse an unreasonable request here and there.
If you already are doing the bare minimum and still suffering stress… Wtf? Most people doing the bare minimum aren’t that stressed. The point is, you probably don’t know how to avoid stress, and saying no alone became stressful. You need to learn to avoid it.
People who let stress overtake their physical health have come into positions where they literally can’t conceive of the idea of “avoiding stress”. They’ve lived and breathed it. That’s the fucking problem, and your doctor isn’t going to fix that with a pill. You need to change how you live.
Most people doing the bare minimum are overwhelmed with the pressure of living paycheck to paycheck. Times are tough, especially when you do not have a financial fallback, are ill, and are making Min wage.
It’s more like whatever is gonna happen is gonna happen regardless of how you feel about it so you can stress or you can chill and whatever is gonna be is gonna be regardless.
This is the key. I was also like OP’s post, super anxious and worried about everything.
Then I realized (with the help of therapy) that my worrying might be justified, yet it doesn’t benefit me at all. As you say, the things beyond my control will happen anyway, so why stress about them. And the things I control I can achieve with less mental effort, if I stop the constant worrying and overthinking.
Exactly. For me in my early 20’s it was a handful of moments of having extreme stress about a possibly bad outcome, Sometimes for weeks only for said scenario (while possible) to never come to pass.
My doctor said, go for a walk and get away from her.
You can though. Leaving malevolent leftism behind can be a great first step to alleviate stress. You can still keep the good parts, the ones that are about making things better. Just drop the ones that make you hate everything. That’s how Mamdani does it.
That shit is just an energy vampire that does nothing to improve the world, it just makes you miserable.
Things like such and such just used your tax dollars to reduce an entire educational facility full of pupils to rubble…as you drive to work over a road full of potholes and have no mass transit so if your car gets screwed up you’re done. Specially if you’re living paycheck to paycheck.
I was too far into lemmy/scrolling, but not like any TikTok/facebook/etc. I think I just got dopamine burnout. One o got antidepressants, it was so much better for my mental health.
I mean… You can. Just not for longer than 3 days or so before you die from dehydration. But hey! If you die, you no longer experience stress. 🤷♂️
