• Tiral@lemmy.world
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    51 minutes ago

    Sounds like a gonewild post “My first time, be nice guys” “Here’s my asshole spread 2 inches away”

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    I don’t get it. We can all agree that fuccbois and PUAs are gross, but we’re all celebrating this person’s recent posts?

    If this were a white guy bragging about how easy it is to bang Korean MILFs, y’all would not be in here with the same type of comments.

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      But you can’t actually reverse roles as a direct 1:1 because women’s sexuality, bodily autonomy, authority aren’t treated equal to men’s. It’s inherently different because there isn’t actually a direct inverse. I do think a post similar to this about a cute femboy wearing something similar in a similar situation would be getting upvotes and comments.

      Your comment just reads like “you can be a man or be political” and think people only like this because it’s “political” aka woke but there shouldn’t be anything woke about a woman being sexually liberated, practicing choice and autonomy or refusing to conform, she has every right and I support that.

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          Did you make the /s super small? Like you wanted the littlest deniability that you weren’t serious. We know you’re kidding, it’s just a weak joke. Like they’re discussing feminism on Lemmy to get laid? Get some better material

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      The difference is power structures and cultural incentives. Fuckboys tend to not react pleasantly to being turned down. I get more “himbo” (keeping the male parallel theme going) vibes from Violet. She’s down to clown, isn’t afraid to let that be known, but nothing screams that anything nonconsensual is happening here.

      People fuck, who cares? She doesn’t appear to be hurting anyone. Her posts are funny, it doesn’t need to be deep.

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      12 hours ago

      Violet is super annoying but I guess guys like a thirsty, horny Lemmy user? For all we know, it’s a guy.

    • ☭SaltyIcetea☭@lemmy.ml
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      11 hours ago

      so like, it didnt even cross my mind that this fit was to get some dick, but rather about being different even though one is shy

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    I sort of do this to my wife. She’s unbearably hot. Also sort of hates strangers.

    I’m kind of the attention seeker, but she will dress up for me sometimes. Last year we went to a Halloween party where she wore a black skin-tight snakeskin patterned catsuit. She also had on a horned black mask - she was a hot dragon.

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        You absolutely should.

        But as a word of advice: take really, really good measurements multiple times at different times of the day and rely on the largest measurement collected for a given area. Also, only buy one the first time you purchase.

        (The latter thing didn’t bite us, but could have. The elbows, of all places, are a touch too small and after about an hour start to become uncomfortable.)

        Edit: One last thing! If you’re going for a full body look and planning to actually wear it for a bit, get the crotch zipper, so you don’t have to strip to pee. (I didn’t because I kept thinking I wasn’t gonna boink her while she wore it, because I have a one track mind, and that was a dumb decision.)

  • Dookieman12@piefed.social
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    13 hours ago

    Makes sense. Pretending to be something you’re not is helpful when seeking an asymmetrical relationship with an unbalanced power dynamic in your favor.

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    19 hours ago

    In what way do you consider yourself shy?

    On a related note last summer I saw a girl walking out from the bar in one of those inflateable dinosaur costumes. That was the most standing out I’ve seen.

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    20 hours ago

    Is it really conformist monochrome? Never been there, but I can hardly resist asking you for sharing a story.

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      I’ve been there multiple times and can confirm. Among the younger population it’s like 90% black and white clothing. That number goes down as you look at older groups. However, almost all of the cars are also black or white.

      I stuck out like a sore thumb wearing pink, orange, green, etc. Last time I went, I was in Seoul for a whole week. I saw one young person wearing pink, and maybe 10 young people wearing colorful outfits.

    • did_you_find_violets@lemmy.worldOP
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      Yeah, if you look up Seoul walking tour videos on YouTube, you’ll see for yourself: Koreans are obsessed with black, white, and gray.

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          On the other side of the coin, you have to really go out of your way to find colors of certain things that aren’t navy, grey, black, or white in Japan. I wear polos to work and I haven’t seen one outside those colors in at least a few years now. Part of the problem is the fact that I need to shop in the fat dude section (which was true even before I was a fat dude because normal shirts here aren’t designed for broad shoulders), but even in the rest of the store the color selections aren’t great. I also live in the ass end of nowhere, so I’m sure there’d be more selection in like tokyo.

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    You’re desperate for attention. Doesn’t mean you actually want to talk to any of the people who take the bait.

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        I interpreted this as not really a condemnation, but explanation. As in, a person dresses this way because they want to be looked at, but it isn’t an invitation to interact, but explained in second person.

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      Or maybe she just likes looking good? I’m shy and I like to dress up because it makes me feel more confident about myself.

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        Well two small things: first, there’s a lot of ways to look good, and I don’t buy “just likes looking good, doesn’t want attention” when there are ways to look good without drawing attention. There must be a reason to override that desire not to attract attention.

        Second… I mean, it’s violets, we don’t really need to speculate!

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          it’s violets, we don’t really need to speculate!

          Indeed. She’s been very upfront about the fact that she’s seeking validation and amusement in the form of attention from men who are sexually repressed by their culture and has no intentions of returning any of the attention she receives from them unless it benefits her. Many Korean hearts will be broken this summer.

          But hey, at least we get to upvote the memes about it and cheer for “girl power” right?