• cockmushroom@reddthat.com
    41·
    2 days ago

    Recently been seeing early 2000s stuff again and they kiss way less often than they do now. I find it more consistently exciting now though tbh

    all that said, this comment is cursed tbh

    • henfredemars@infosec.pubEnglish
      17·
      4 days ago

      It’s not even necessarily a negative thing. My parents were quite functional caregivers and role models despite this fact. They held each other in only the highest respect.

        • Snowclone@lemmy.world
          2·
          9 hours ago

          the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they’re incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you’re locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it’s a nightmare. REALLY don’t have kids with people you haven’t lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life, also, you can’t out run, out think, or recognize your truama, you are you, and you can’t not you. therapy early and often.

          • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.todayEnglish
            1·
            7 hours ago

            Sorry, I guess you do what you have to do until they are 18.

            No, I cannot do therapy, simply not feasible atm at all. Not time-wise, not economy wise, I’d get fired for that here.

      • rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        12·
        4 days ago

        oof. Glad I dodged that bullet. She broke up with me less than a year after I proposed. After time and separation, I realized how fucking bad that relationship was

  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
    31·
    4 days ago

    It gets even worse when sometimes you see a really really good porn. The kind you like so much that you eventually watch all 40 minutes of at different times. And the guy in the porn kinda looks like a jacked version of you. And the characters first name is the same as your name. And you take note of what the womans name is.

    Then years later you see a different porn with the same woman, but a different guy. And you’re like “WHAT ARE YOU DOING, ASHLEY??? YOU’RE MARRIED TO RICHARD!!! WHO IS THIS??? YOU LOVE DICK, ASHLEY!!! DIIIIIIIIICK!!!”

    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      10·
      3 days ago

      … are… you are shipping… porn actors?

      You’ve made a porno fancanon universe?

      … ok. I don’t even know what to say to that, I’m mostly just astounded.

  • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.todayEnglish
    1·
    2 days ago

    Imagine if your co-workers are fucking with you, except it’s literally.

    You don’t even find the person attractive, and you are basically asexual now.

    But your CV has nothing but years of fucking.

    • tpyo@lemmy.world
      7·
      3 days ago

      I’ll use your comment to piggyback. Some of the HOTTEST I’ve seen are from actual partners where it’s an actual understanding of each other, where there’s real affection. Or taking a step back and watching them discuss their kinks and bedroom play casually

      • nforminvasion@lemmy.world
        6·
        3 days ago

        God. So incredibly sexy when it’s real attraction. Plus one of my strongest kinks is seeing people in pleasure. So, even greater that attraction when they also romantically enjoy giving each other pleasure.