This reminds me of a therapist I had that only lasted a single session, and I never went back. Not that he was trying to trick me outside but, I’m very introvert and from the go he started to insist on communities, on reaching out and finding like minded people. He may have had good intentions but to me it felt like he was trying to bring me into his religion, and I couldn’t stand this approach.
Seemed to work. You’re here. You reached out, joined this community and are talking to like minded people. Gooba gobba gooba gooba gabba! We accept you! Once of us! One of us!
I was already a geek that used internet to escape reality nearly 30 years ago. That part hasn’t changed. He wanted my to do it physically. Like, join the local Esperanto club or something like that.
And as much as he may have been right, sometimes what matters most is how it’s brought up and said. It felt like he was trying to convince me to “go join them!”, or more accurately “come join us!”. As if it was a cult and the only natural thing to do. Just like society makes me feel in general.
It sounds like he lacked tact and maybe is just a bad therapist tbh. I dunno, maybe he’d be good for socialite types, but I feel like a good therapist meets you where you’re at. I think the first session or two should be dedicated to learning about you with minimal suggestions for change. It sounds like even you’re aware that more of that type of thing might be benificial, but making changes like that take a lot of work on yourself over a signifigant length of time, and a suggestion from a therapist isn’t where it needs to come from, you need to come to the conclusion yourself.
That’s my take as someone who has seen only two people, the first was bad and the second has been great, she did exactly that, basically just listened and asked questions for the first couple times I saw her. Even now she doesn’t really make concrete suggestions, more asks leading questions that make me think and come to conclusions on my own. Tbh sometimes I just wish she’d tell me what to do haha, but I know that’d piss me off and that isn’t how it works at all.
It may just have been a bad match. What he said was very generic but I couldn’t help myself but transpose it into a religious speech. It could have worked if he was also talking about religion. And it creeped me out. Maybe a smart thing would have been to tell him, but I chose not to go back instead.
But yeah, I hope it’s working for some other people because to me, it felt like someone was trying to get me into a pyramid scheme.
This reminds me of a therapist I had that only lasted a single session, and I never went back. Not that he was trying to trick me outside but, I’m very introvert and from the go he started to insist on communities, on reaching out and finding like minded people. He may have had good intentions but to me it felt like he was trying to bring me into his religion, and I couldn’t stand this approach.
Seemed to work. You’re here. You reached out, joined this community and are talking to like minded people. Gooba gobba gooba gooba gabba! We accept you! Once of us! One of us!
I was already a geek that used internet to escape reality nearly 30 years ago. That part hasn’t changed. He wanted my to do it physically. Like, join the local Esperanto club or something like that.
And as much as he may have been right, sometimes what matters most is how it’s brought up and said. It felt like he was trying to convince me to “go join them!”, or more accurately “come join us!”. As if it was a cult and the only natural thing to do. Just like society makes me feel in general.
It sounds like he lacked tact and maybe is just a bad therapist tbh. I dunno, maybe he’d be good for socialite types, but I feel like a good therapist meets you where you’re at. I think the first session or two should be dedicated to learning about you with minimal suggestions for change. It sounds like even you’re aware that more of that type of thing might be benificial, but making changes like that take a lot of work on yourself over a signifigant length of time, and a suggestion from a therapist isn’t where it needs to come from, you need to come to the conclusion yourself.
That’s my take as someone who has seen only two people, the first was bad and the second has been great, she did exactly that, basically just listened and asked questions for the first couple times I saw her. Even now she doesn’t really make concrete suggestions, more asks leading questions that make me think and come to conclusions on my own. Tbh sometimes I just wish she’d tell me what to do haha, but I know that’d piss me off and that isn’t how it works at all.
That doesn’t sound too healthy…
It may just have been a bad match. What he said was very generic but I couldn’t help myself but transpose it into a religious speech. It could have worked if he was also talking about religion. And it creeped me out. Maybe a smart thing would have been to tell him, but I chose not to go back instead.
But yeah, I hope it’s working for some other people because to me, it felt like someone was trying to get me into a pyramid scheme.