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Cake day: September 27th, 2025

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  • The elections are run by the states.

    Only the certification of the Electoral College during a Presidential election is handled by the federal government, and he already tried (and failed) to interrupt that on January 6th, 2021. Trumps political support, even within his own party, is dwindling. Nobody is even bothering to show up in support of Trump as counter-protestors anymore. America’s military resources are spread thin and his gestapo have proven themselves incredibly inept outside of killing unarmed women. The time for him to plan and enact a successful coup against the American people has come and gone.

    Make no mistake, ~7 months from now, each of the states will decide who they are going to be sending to Congress, and the Trump administration will have no choice but to operate within that new political reality–one which is almost certainly going to be far less favorable to them than the current one.

    We do need to be ready for all contingencies, but so do they, and they have never been more distracted and disorganized than they are now.

    Those of us who care about the democratic process, and outcome, need to stop whining and start paying attention now. Primary season is just about underway.


  • Exactly. I’m not sure why people think we need to do anything other than sit back and talk shit…

    Iran is a boondoggle, the economy is in shambles, the administration is in chaos, and everyone with a brain hates him. America, Iran, Israel, Russia, and all of their proxies… All sides of this conflict are run almost entirely by shitheads. The worse it goes for all of them, the better.

    My only sympathies lie with the innocent people of the world who are bound to get mixed up in this madness, but there’s very little anyone can do to stop that when the leaders of the world are hell-bent on waging pointless wars. All we can really do is continue to protest and ridicule the people in power, so that we can continue to do what $4.50-per-gallon regular gas is doing, and further erode their public support.






    1. Pets are not intellectually capable of communicating their feelings or desires to humans, so it is up to us as humans to assess the quality of life of our animals in order to prevent them from needless suffering. There is nothing wrong with trying to treat animal illnesses, if you have the resources to do so and can make sure that the animal is maintaining a good quality of life–but that’s sadly not always the case. We love our pets and we all want them to live happily forever after, but the sad truth is that they will eventually get old and sick and (unless they die suddenly) one of the most important acts of compassion that we owe them is giving them a humane end of life without suffering. It is sad. It breaks our fucking hearts. But it is our duty and our responsibility to them, and in a strange way, it is an act of love. We owe it to our pets to take care of them in life and in death.
    2. Unlike pets, human beings are typically thought to have agency and the ability to express their own wishes regarding their end of life. We can’t really decide that “ok, grandma is lives enough, time to put her down”, because even if we can see that her quality of life has degraded, we understand that it is not our decision to make whether she can continue to try to live.
    3. In some parts of the world, human beings do have the right to choose when to end their own life via physician-assisted suicide, especially in cases where they have some terminal prognosis where they know that their quality of life will not stay high if they continue to live. I don’t envy being put in this position, and it’s terribly sad to think about, but I do think that it’s ethically the right thing to do to allow for that.




  • I think your question reveals that you are conflating “confidence”, “self love”, “love” and “romance”. As someone approaching 40 who has struggled with all of these things to various degrees over time, I strongly recommend against mixing these things up or treating them like the same thing. They aren’t. And by conflating them, you’re only making it harder to feel satisfied with any of them!

    If you skateboard then you already know all about “confidence”. You can’t land a trick without confidence, and the only way you can gain confidence is by practicing until you can do it in your sleep. I think that same mentality applies to all things, including just basic social situations, making friends, and dating. You might land it, you might bail, or you might totally eat shit, but you’ve gotta practice putting yourself out there to build confidence. Reflect on yourself to determine what you feel unconfident about, and work on it. Practice it like you’d practice an ollie.

    “Self-love” is a difficult one, because many of us are our own harshest critics. You might want to be the best version of yourselves and feel let down or disappointed when you fall short of that. You might have a tendency to blame yourself for things that are fundamentally outside of your control. Worst of all, you might be someone who channels every negative emotion (boredom, loneliness, fear, anxiety, etc.) into self-hatred, instead of just accepting that you can feel bad without being bad. We have to resist all of those tendencies because they are negative and self-destructive. Look at the things about you that are good. Look at your talents, look at your relationships, look at the way you treat other people and animals, and so on… Furthermore, it’s really important that you learn that self-love is fundamentally different than love or romance for others–being in a relationship is unlikely to teach you self-love, and self-love is something that you have to work on finding even if you are single or feel lonely.

    “Love” is also difficult, if only because you can’t force it. It’s also not the same as romance. Depending on your circumstances, you can find love in your family, be it parents, grandparents, siblings, kids, or other relatives. You can also find love in a beloved pet, like a cat or a dog who always wants to be with you. You can find love in a lifelong friend who you truly care about and who cares about you right back. Love isn’t romance (and it certainly isn’t sex), but it’s powerful and you know it when you feel it. There’s no recipe to finding love out in the world, but if you look around you, I think you might see that it’s already there in some form.

    I’m certainly no expert in “romance”, so I’m probably not a good person to ask about this… But I think a lot of romance is just showing the other person that you’re thinking about them and care for them. Romance is not sex; you can have romance without sex and you can have sex without romance. Being “good at sex” is not the same as being romantic, nor is it necessary. I have really come to learn that the most romantic thing you can do is be emotionally intimate with a partner, by talking to them openly, asking them how they feel, breaking down the boundaries between you both and making them feel comfortable and safe in every way that people need. If you can care for another person, listen to them, and share their most intimate moments, then I think you probably do have what it takes to be romantic.

    Finally, it’s also important to address the idea that “aromanticism” and “asexuality” exist in a whole variety of different forms. These ways of being have probably always existed throughout humanity, even though they weren’t discussed as frankly due to the pressures of social conformity. I think you really need to at least consider the possibility that part of the reason you’ve tended to shy away from seeking out romantic relationships is that you feel that you might not really want a conventional one. Only you know for sure, but it’s at least worth thinking about.


  • Damn dude…I hope you don’t! Doesn’t seem worth it, even after hitting rock bottom…

    No family or friends as a support system? Any community homelessness resources? Can you get by a little longer selling stuff?

    What kind of job are you looking for? Can you temporarily settle for something less just to make ends meet while hunting?

    Good luck, amigo. Don’t give up just yet!



    • Closer to the center is always best.
    • Moving back is preferable to moving forward.
    • Front row is the worst, because you’ll be straining your neck to look up.
    • Far sides are kind of bad because you end up viewing the movie from an angle.
    • Back row is hit or miss depending on the theater, if the seats are right up against the wall you may not be able to recline them.
    • In my opinion, sound quality can be hit or miss depending on the theater and what you’re seeing. Video quality is pretty consistent.
    • While it’s nice to have snacks and drinks during a movie, they are often a big rip off (like $8 soda and $20 popcorn kind of ripoff!), so just know that if you plan on getting snacks it’ll cost a lot more than you think. A lot of people sneak stuff into the theater. Whether it’s worth it to you is your call.
    • People these days seemingly don’t know how to watch a movie without being annoying. If someone nearby is bothering you, I suggest just moving seats to an open seat. Don’t let it ruin your movie.
    • I think as TVs get bigger and better, the movie theater experience is much less impressive today than it used to feel when I was a kid in the 90s! It’s hard for me to want to go to the theater when I compare it to the experience of just watching a movie on my home theater system. It’s probably still worth the experience though!