This feels to me more like a person-first language preference in this context. NDT likely has NPD- maybe he finds it empowering to use identity-first language
That’s not identity first language. That’s identity only language. Identity first language would be “narcissistic person”, which I’m fine with. But identity only language is dehumanising. If you have autism and I call you an autist, or if you have schizophrenia and I call you a sch*zo, does that feel good?
Fair distinction on the identity-only bit- I didn’t think that through all the way. However, I do refer to myself as an autist, and I know plenty of autists who feel the same (I make it a habit to ask). Similarly, I refer to myself as bipolar and, naturally, as a narcissist. Hell, even “ADHDer” has become a thing, bc people like nouns. There’s no noun version for bipolar yet, but I’ll be using it if it ever becomes a thing.
I don’t think it’s dehumanizing; I think it’s empowering, like taking back the word queer. It absolutely does rub me the wrong way though when someone who doesn’t fit the category does it though
I also have NPD and I’m not okay with it. I might be okay one day far in the future when it’s widely accepted, but we have a lot of work to do before we reach that point. And Neil has not told anyone that he’s a member of our community. I’m willing to tolerate a pwNPD using the word, same as N word rules, but only if they claim the label in the context in which they’re speaking. Neil hasn’t come out on Twitter. I don’t think anyone should get the power if they don’t take on the responsibility.
This feels to me more like a person-first language preference in this context. NDT likely has NPD- maybe he finds it empowering to use identity-first language
That’s not identity first language. That’s identity only language. Identity first language would be “narcissistic person”, which I’m fine with. But identity only language is dehumanising. If you have autism and I call you an autist, or if you have schizophrenia and I call you a sch*zo, does that feel good?
Fair distinction on the identity-only bit- I didn’t think that through all the way. However, I do refer to myself as an autist, and I know plenty of autists who feel the same (I make it a habit to ask). Similarly, I refer to myself as bipolar and, naturally, as a narcissist. Hell, even “ADHDer” has become a thing, bc people like nouns. There’s no noun version for bipolar yet, but I’ll be using it if it ever becomes a thing.
I don’t think it’s dehumanizing; I think it’s empowering, like taking back the word queer. It absolutely does rub me the wrong way though when someone who doesn’t fit the category does it though
I also have NPD and I’m not okay with it. I might be okay one day far in the future when it’s widely accepted, but we have a lot of work to do before we reach that point. And Neil has not told anyone that he’s a member of our community. I’m willing to tolerate a pwNPD using the word, same as N word rules, but only if they claim the label in the context in which they’re speaking. Neil hasn’t come out on Twitter. I don’t think anyone should get the power if they don’t take on the responsibility.