It only sounds draconian compared to the completely unsupervised access that I think most of us grew up with.
I had porn at 13. Shock videos shortly after. 4chan at 16. Outside of being able to discover my own media tastes through piracy and late night binges, I struggle to identify a lot of good that came of my unfettered access.
So I am a parent, and while my daughter is still a toddler (3), I’ve thought about it a lot. These plans may not hold as time goes on, but it’s what I’ll be working from at least.
We have an old Android tablet that is “Daddy’s” where I’ve used ADB to remove almost every app from it, and hide the others. It has Disney Plus (some kids shows), Newpipe (set to open right to a playlist of pre-vetted stuff, mostly Sesame Street), and VLC (Mr. Rogers, Muppet Movies and Specials, some Looney Tunes). It only comes out on long trips (car rides more than two hours long), use is always supervised, and we lock the touch controls as much as we can once the content is playing so she can’t stray into other YouTube content or the more grown up stuff on Disney.
I’m already working on a Kodi setup with just content for her on it as well, which is reach-able from the living room TV and will be on the play room TV if it gets one. All of Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood is up on archive.org, and she loves it. Wife doesn’t like piracy though, so I can’t just get baby girl’s Disney shows on it and make it a one stop shop.
As she gets older, we may set her up with an old laptop and edutainment games, but it would be entirely offline. Maybe a Minecraft server for her and friends we’ve met IRL. A co-worker runs one for his tween and it seems to do well used that way.
I don’t think we’ll be allowing internet until 12 years old or so. Even if she needs it earlier for school, she’ll start on an isolated network segment to reduce chance of any malware spreading to the whole house. Use will be in a common area of the house where Mom and I can see what she’s into at a glance. It will be filtered with PiHole or whatever the modern equivalent ends up being, to block both ads and inappropriate content. Ad blocker on the device itself with similar settings if possible to help catch any strays.
As she gets older, start teaching media and advertising literacy, as other comments have suggested. As we do that, we slowly scale back the training wheels/filters. Depending on how well we think she’s ready, I can see unattended, still filtered, but somewhat monitored at 14 maybe. Cut the content filters at 15 maybe. Cut the ad filters at 16 maybe. That’s all going to be super-dependent on her own “internet and ad literacy” though.
I want her to get enough of an idea of the unfiltered and ad-ridden internet that it’s not a danger to her, but I do hope she’ll decide to use ad blocking for her own sake.
17 or 18 it’s completely hands off. Can’t protect them forever, and she’ll need to learn one way or another.
My goal is to protect her from creeps, protect her from exposure to stuff she’s too young for, and to make sure she’s prepared for the wider internet hellscape before dropping her in the deep end unsupervised like I was.
I’d be very interested in hearing the experience of any parents who have already been through this.
This is part of why ml users get a bad rap. Both of your core statements/assumptions here are false, to a degree that it would be easier to assume bad faith and move on with my life than to type this response up.
So Dessalines’s continued and ongoing banning of any negative talk about China or Russia:
I’m not a particular fan of !meanwhileongrad@sh.itjust.works, but what I see when I look at that community for the past month is mostly a running log of questionable at best bans that lemmy.ml admins, including Dessalines, have handed out.
I picked out some that stand out to me, but please peruse that community and your own instance’s mod logs at your leisure. You should be able to filter the mod logs themselves by action, and I believe by the mod or admin that took the action.
That poster clearly has a bone to pick, and that community does especially, but there is a concerning pattern there as well.
Didn’t your instance just defederate the Germans for their heavy-handed moderation of anything remotely antisemitic?
That is… quite an interpretation of what happened. Anti-semitism is not tolerated on db0. You see it, go report it and tell us what happens. Anti-zionism is not anti-semitism.
From the db0 admin team’s mouths, their take on what happened: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/63525728
Funny enough, they don’t look kindly on Meanwhile on Grad/MoG. And I downvoted that post, voting that I did not want to defed from feddit.
You haven’t been paying attention then. Dessalines, the head admin, regularly instance bans people for speaking about the genocide in China in .ml communities.
Thankfully the fediverse is still small enough that blocking people has a noticable effect. On reddit, for every person you block there’s 4 more to take their place.
Uh… uh… It was kind of an… interesting set piece in that awful World War Z movie? They have… a lot of… sand? Um… a third. A third. Shit. The Mossad seem to be a very… effective… organization?
Soft, not as much as a gummy bear though. Closer to a skittles without the hard shell. Or a non-sticky starburst. They pretty much taste like stale sugar.
I think lemmy.zip tries not to defederate from anything except pedo instances, but that could be wrong.
Anarchist ones are also blacklisted in a lot of places.
Nope, they’re actually some of the larger servers (which is still pretty small all things considered, lol).
For lemmy, there’s the instance/server I’m commenting from: lemmy.dbzer0.com
It was built by the former head mod db0 of reddit’s /r/piracy, so piracy discussion is cool here too. They’ve also made a decent bunch of software for lemmy servers, like a database/review system for lemmy instances, and a CSAM detection tool.
The instance also tries to handle as many big instance/server decisions as they can democratically (donators/supporters and community members vouched for get to vote, and the rest of the server’s users act as tie-breaker).
I’ve been an adherent of Notepad++ for ages. What’s the draw of Kate?
There’s a little bit of the “screechy tsundere” voice here and there going on that was pretty common at the time, but a lot less than most shows of the era. Beyond that, the dub is great, imo.
Edit: should have scrolled down, somebody already said ir
Part of it is that there’s aqlways low quality and high quality content being made, but time acts as a filter. The stuff you’ll still be able to find to watch from the past is more likely to be the higher quality things from that previous era.
I personally think there is still a slight difference in quality as well, but it’s easy to forget all the shit TV that doesn’t make it into history books or to any online services.
Honestly looks too low to be a beard. Most beards start closer to the mouth.
It was pretty much the only way to find stuff online before search sites started indexing everything. You either knew the site directly or you followed links from other sites to get there.
Missed shots just add to the mythos of these chucklefucks as some sort of noble martyrs to such a degree that I always have to wonder if these aren’t false flags.
Exactly. I’m not helpdesk anymore, thank god, but my team still has a ton of day to day work that’s tracked in the ticketing system.
Well, for years I’ve been stuck in project hell, doing work that isn’t easily fit into the ticket system. My last review my boss said I had only closed about 1/3 of the tickets of the next lowest person on my team, and that it doesn’t matter except we have a new exec watching that shit, so I have to make it look better.
So the next project I got, I chose to do something manually that I could have automated, that required the help desk to open tickets direct to me about 2-4 times a day whenever someone new needed access to the system I was setting up, until the project was done.
A week in I automated the “manual” task anyway and had a bunch of tickets I could close with a copy-pasted resolution.
I would feel bad, but my co-workers game the metrics even worse than I do.
I think it’s the shooter of Charlie Kirk. But that’s purely based off the mention of Erika Kirk.
Calling any court he’s tried in a purely religiously motivated one is fucking rich though.
As far as I know, he was caught red handed. No room for doubt. The law isn’t void just because he killed someone the world is better without, lol.
At least with Luigi there’s a bunch of extenuating circumstances that create some plausible deniability. This is just “This guy killed someone I think needed to die, so the rule of law shouldn’t apply!”
It’s not entirely clear if the funhole comics (these ones) are in the same continuity as unix_surrealism or not.
Personally I’ve considered them separate, but maybe they’re centuries earlier prequels?
Either way, it’s all great stuff.
I agree, but I think there’s less spaces for that then there used to be, and I don’t think 13 is a particularly unreasonable age for access to still be restricted. It’s probably the older end of when I’d be trying to teach a kid proper online safety and behavior before starting to loosen the reins, but every kid is going to be different. Some would be ready earlier, and others later.
I think we just disagree on where the middle ground might lie, which is probably to be expected on complicated topics like this. Everyone’s going to have their own take.
I definitely wouldn’t be comfortable tossing a hypothetical kid into the deep end, so to speak, at 13.
On top of that, kids are resourceful with a ton of time on their hands. Sufficiently motivated kids will find ways around restrictions (I sure did, locked doors without a deadbolt are not a real lockdown, lol) or friends with less restrictions anyway, and there’s some value to allowing them to think they’re getting away with things and navigating on their own, regardless of whether I as a parent would really be aware of it or not.