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Cake day: November 12th, 2025

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  • It’s about what dad can gain from being told. Covering up a mistake like this is condescending and any confidence that lets him keep is false. Part of being up to the job is a realistic idea of your capabilities and the ability to receive feedback. If dad’s still a peer and a real part of the team, he needs (and gets) to know. Hiding accidents like this to maintain a more comfortable reality is how you handle a patient during end of life care, not someone who’s still living and working in the world we share.

    Conversely… at some point our capabilities dwindle, no one gets to participate in our shared reality forever. If your father’s at a point where you need to shelter and protect him there’s nothing wrong with that, but it’s quite a heavy responsibility to assume and not necessarily going to be easy or fun for either of you. Very similar commitment to raising a child, but keeps getting harder until they die instead of easier as they grow. It’s heavy stuff and no one here can answer this for you op. The way you frame this makes you seem like an intelligent and caring person, you’ve got this. Good luck out there.




  • …when someone seems normal you aren’t looking to explain their differences. The chance to socialize in the real world as opposed to a classroom environment is one of the things I value most about that period. We clearly have very different perspectives, in my community yours might be socially awkward. And that’s ok, it is in no way “crucial” for you to think feel or act the way I do :)


  • I was homeschooled for pretty much the exact opposite ideological reasons, and am so grateful to have had the chance to explore and develop without institutional constraints. Some great years traveling in a bus and seeing how a wide variety of people lived. To me homeschooling is an ideal of time commitment to a child that most people are unable to achieve, and offloading that opportunity to a centralized authority while you pursue a paycheck is a tragic compromise




  • I might reevaluate my risk assessment and consider including other media. It’s right in there with weed in terms of both risk and reward, in that you’ll probably have fun/make a lot of people happy but definitely still need other means of support. There’s a guy doing exactly what you’re talking about at pretty much every educational institution for starters, and the risk is essentially being told to stop


  • I can understand, disagree, and not be a dick about it. Please work on that last one. I genuinely love to talk about this stuff, but it’s no fun confrontationally. Enjoy your dead, sterile, static zine shrine if that’s what you want. Those butterflies are too beautiful to ever exist again, you’re super special for having witnessed them, good thing they’re pinned in your shadowbox. My “point” here is that this world and that culture is a beautiful, living, evolving, ever-changing Thing still very much available for you to participate in. Come out and play, or not! There was a “post your lab” thread in the selfhosting comm here just a couple days ago that should’ve been able to melt your jaded old phreaky heart, wires going everywhere, scavenged gear, tunnels and proxies and containers, people learning and sharing and experimenting and helping each other out, punk’s only as dead as you let it be


  • As best as I can tell your point is to enshrine a medium best known for how accessible it is into something precious. I spread my first lil xeroxed pamphlet in 1992 and last one (so far) a couple years ago and genuinely from a place of love hope to see you do the same rather than sneering at “posers”. It’s way more fun to participate than judge and I earnestly want that for you. One person didn’t make monty python, but they absolutely made your favorite zine and so can you :)