There’s a few strands of toxic monogamy that are pretty common. Really jealous, controlling, and with poor emotional regulation.
I’m lucky my current partner is very chill about these things. I’m still good friends with two previous partners and it’s never been an issue. We’ve all hung out together.
I was looking at the costs of raising a child the other day and I don’t know how anyone does it. My job pays garbage with trash health insurance.
I’m just so mad at the management class with their high pay and not doing any actual work. My boss seems fine - I think he knows this is bullshit and goes a little out of his way to make it easier for me. But everyone above him? If I saw them drowning I’d have to think a long time before throwing a life vest.
For any question about “why is this extra bad in the United States?”, racism is probably a big factor. There’s a book “Dying of Whiteness” that’s pretty horrifying. Some people would literally rather suffer and die personally than let black people have nice things.
It’s not the only factor, but it’s a big one.
Workers skeptical of unions in a survey of 1,900 tech professionals conducted by the career site Blind cited specific concerns: that unions are “not meritocratic,” “prevent innovation,” and “hold back earnings of top performers.”
Looking at my non union job where idiots make millions and it has taken years to get even the basics of ci/cd implemented.
That can be scaled horizontally and is just a matter of building more data centers.
At one of my old jobs “just” was considered a bad word
I often have to toggle airplane mode when I take the subway. After it loses signal, it won’t reconnect until I do. Older android phone.
How about labor getting their fair share of loss if business they work in fails. No? Why not?
If the business fails, the workers lose their income and their shares are just as worthless as anyone else. The workers should have shares. (Or some other mechanism so there’s not a handful of fat cats living a life of luxury due to the labor of many others)
The person who started the business can always go work somewhere else. It’s not like he’s put to death. And if the concern is that “someone who loses their money might suffer and die” then we should fix that problem more generally, because there are many other ways to end up there.
And you haven’t proposed any better system. It’s always the same when I ask that question.
That wasn’t the question or the point. A fairer system off the top of my head is profit sharing with a union. But that wasn’t the point.
If someone says “X is bad for A, B, C” saying that Z isn’t better is not a rebuttal. We haven’t gotten that far. We’re trying to reach agreement that X is bad. Then we can talk about replacing or fixing it. Maybe Z does suck.
It’s a common mistake. Someone will be like “windows sucks” and someone will be like “well apple is expensive”, just blazing by on that express train of thought. Take the local train.
But I’m still in favor of capitalism. Because my parents and grandparents lived in socialism and told me how their life looked like.
So you have generational trauma skewing your views.
Long story short: It was an inescapable poverty and no free speech.
Free speech has absolutely nothing to do with this economic system. And let me remind you of all the people fired because their employer didn’t like what they said, where they risk falling into poverty and worse.
The way capitalism manifests in the US is a set of tiny tyrannies. Your boss tells you when you can piss, what you can wear, what you can say in public. Maybe you don’t care because you are the boss. You give your people time off?
I am a capitalist. I run super small business. If you think it’s sunshine and rainbow, you’re sorely mistaken. It’s more work, there’s no pay guarantee, competition is ALWAYS ahead of you, in capital, scale and know-how, you’re sweating shitless on any change in costs, because raising prices always comes at the risk of losing customers, meanwhile you’re required to do shit ton of government mandated paperwork.
And the dream is for you to make it so big that you don’t have to work anymore. Your business expands. You buy out or out compete everyone else. You sit back and let other people work. Then you raise prices, lower wages, and buy a private jet.
The end state of capitalism is a rich asshole who doesn’t work, and a shitty world for everyone else. Maybe it takes years. But enshittification is pretty widely understood.
Maybe a worker owned collective would enshittify, too. But as a small consolation, you’d at least have thousands of rich people instead of a billionaire.
Now, I wrote this on the toilet so it’s not the most coherent or polished. I appreciate you taking the time to go back and forth even though we disagree.
Failing businesses is irrelevant to the argument that labor is entitled to a fair share of what it creates.
Your analogy to generalizations and an old timey Godwin’s law is laughable.
The capitalist system “works” at tremendous cost to many people. Many such systems work. Chattel slavery would “work”.
And you haven’t clarified why you’re so eager to defend this system. Are you a capitalist? Do you employ people while keeping the bulk of the profits?
I don’t think I can take you seriously
VC funding isn’t free money. Usually you have to have alredy prospering business for anyone to even talk with you. Companies like WeWork or more recently AI companies are extremely rare exception.
lol. Many people get funding for their companies because of their connections. Zoom famously got funding even though the investors thought it was stupid to try to address what they saw as a solved problem, but he was their friend so they gave him a few million dollars.
The last business I worked for started with his daddy’s money, which (surprise) came from previous capitalist exploits. The first one was similar.
Why not?
Capitalists have done incalculable harm to our environment, society, and individuals. They don’t need your defense. They have almost all the money and power.
I can’t tell if people who do that kind of thing are lazy and malicious, actually stupid, or stressed beyond their capacity to be decent.
I do think a lot of people are actually only semi literate, and asking them to write is legitimately difficult and embarrassing for them.
I had an interview a few weeks ago (one of like 3 this year) where it was revealed they still write these.
They asked how we kept all the stuff organized at my last job. All the cucumber stuff. I said we just kept the tests next to the file they’re testing- foo.py has a sibling test_foo.py- and we didn’t find much value in adding extra layers. If you want to test the API returns 403 when you request another user’s file, you can just write like
def test_403_when_requesting_other_user_file() -> None:
response = requests.get("whatever/etc")
assert response.status_code == 403
You can be pretty to the point.
We used docstrings to explain non-obvious things. Swagger shows the API docs in a nice webpage for anyone curious and authorized.
He wasn’t impressed and I didn’t make it to the next round.
I kind of intensely dislike that whole… natural language wrapper thing. It adds at least one whole extra layer to maintain for no real benefit. No one non technical is going to read it. If they were some magic competent person, they could just read regular doc strings.
VC funding.
Also why are you so invested in defending capitalists?
The owner also gets a wage and benefits while the process is running.
And much of the time, they’re spending VC money. Minimal personal risk.
And even so, that doesn’t justify the owner keeping almost all of the proceeds. I don’t care if they put their life savings into it. Labor built it.
The laid off workers also suffer the loss, typically.
Furthermore, I don’t think “he gambled” compellingly makes this system fair or good.
Keep track of your spending. Find simple and cheap things you like. There’s hours of entertainment at the free public library. There’s free meetups all over.
I had a friend that ordered food delivery for every meal. That’s like $25k/year on food, in $35 chunks. Don’t do that. Don’t aspire to that.
Use thrift stores, buy nothing groups, freecycle, yard sales etc. I got most of the furniture for my first apartment for $230 (inflation adjusted) when I first moved out. Couch, table, chairs, dresser. The couch didn’t survive the next move, but everything else is solid.
You can probably salvage an old computer by putting Linux on it rather than shelling out for a new one. I saved my friend a lot of money reviving their ancient laptop like that.
Some people have this idea that spending money frivolously or conspicuously is cool. They’re assholes and fools.
Keep in touch with friends. Most of my jobs I got because I knew someone. The job process is broken, run by idiots and slop machines.
If living with your parents isn’t driving you crazy, don’t worry about it. Save the money.
That’s one of the core injustices of capitalism.
Rich person says “Build a thing”
Workers design, research, and build the thing.
Rich person keeps the profits.
No. Don’t think I was even invited to any.
I’m not close to anyone from high school. I haven’t talked to anyone from that era in years. I wasn’t my best self back then, and I don’t really want to relive it.
Other answers are good.
I expect there’s a lot of racism, too. A lot of people don’t want those people to have nice things, even if it means personally suffering.
If you build a nice train system, you might have to see those people on your day to day. In a car, you’re isolated and feel safe.
But mostly I expect it’s because of the massive highway system that was built without corresponding passenger rail.
Conservatives are famously kind of stupid. They’re bad at empathy and critical analysis.