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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • I’m sorry you’re going through that. My mom died over twenty years ago, when I was twelve (so I didn’t have any estate management responsibilities), and it’s sometimes difficult to deal with wanting to ask her advice or wanting to have a person whose first priority was me, irrespective of our relationship (I know not all mothers are like that, but mine was, and my much older sisters and their friends agree, so it’s not just kid-glasses. They also readily share unpleasant aspects of her personality, so it’s also not a wariness to speak ill of the dead).

    It does get easier, and you learn to depend on yourself, any siblings or old friends who remember her and other supportive friends who have been through similar situations.








  • I’m of two minds here: it’s just a body, everyone’s got one, no need to be ashamed of it or hide it; but people can also be reasonably distracted by seeing someone’s body at most workplaces (strip club bartenders excluded, for example) when they’re not expecting to, because they aren’t commonly displayed.

    There’s also the factor of necessity: in extremely hot environments, people need to cover less of their body (unless they want to fully cover themselves with materials designed for it, like Bedouins, but a lot of people don’t want to do that and that’s a reasonable choice). In that situation, or in places like the beach, people should expect to see more of others’ bodies, and they are “at fault” for getting distracted.

    To be clear, I think you behaved perfectly normally and well in that story. I was just thinking about the concept of nudity or near nudity at work in general.