Whoa, I love this art style, is this your OC?

What are you talking about? That’s the entire thing we’ve been talking about this entire time. Then tell me, what do you call it when something is done to you non consensually or unwillingly? Yes, it absolutely is being forced on people because it is being pushed to them without them ever agreeing to it. Every community is like this, but the difference with other comms is that they don’t explicitly call out any single group in every post.

At this point, I’m almost tempted to just say you’re a troll, because I seriously can’t imagine how anyone can be so inconsiderate of how the actions of one can make others feel. I feel like every time, I respond to you with a full and complete argument, yet you always nitpick just one tiny thing about it instead of addressing my argument in good faith.

Sure, I don’t have to, that’s why it’s my choice to still engage with people as much as I can. And like I said, I am not cismale, this is not about me, but instead of about the many other people that the community affects.

These people are absolutely not responsible for having something forced upon them suddenly without their consent. How can you think it’s okay to force your ideas and content on others without them giving any permission, and then blame them for getting frustrated?

Maybe it’s changed since the last time I looked at WS, or maybe I’m even misremembering, but every single post has something along the lines of (MEN NOT ALLOWED, PLEASE LEAVE). And looking at the actual content of the posts, everyone is so friendly, from the perspective of a man, can you see how that might be hurtful?

I’ve lived as both a man and… whatever I am now, so I know how lonely men can be, they have minimal support groups, if any at all, and when they need or want to just talk with people, they’re given the cold shoulder or a half-hearted, insincere response. For a man to suddenly see in his feed a vibrant, friendly, even loving community where he specifically isn’t allowed… that hurts.

1: I am not cismale, like I’ve said, despite my username, I am not a guy.

2: I try to interact with almost every post I see, I actually do not just “skate over them”, and in my opinion, that’s the expectation for most users of this platform, to interact and not just mindlessly scroll.

3: So when there’s a community that vocally says (THIS GROUP NOT ALLOWED) in the title of every post, you can understand how that might cause someone to feel like shit, like they’ve done something wrong before they’ve ever interacted with the community. Its my belief that the community/mods must take responsibility for this, because the random people didn’t choose to see the community on their feed, there’s no need to be so hostile towards people who never did anything to you.

4: Do not place hate on the hateless. Do place hate upon the hateful. This is my motto, and the way the mods of that community acted firmly violates this principle that I hold dear.

I didn’t know that was a feature! In that case, it is reasonable to have a private community, but does WS actually make use of that feature?

Everything else you have said is making strawman out of what I actually said. You’re taking my arguments and pushing them to the very extreme when that is explicitly not what I said or intended.

The first sentence of my comment addresses your second statement. I never said it simply shouldn’t exist, but I said that in the current (at least, my view of the current) state of piefed/lemmy, it’s not possible and not reasonable to have a fully private community.

It’s not a huge burden, you’re right, and I never said it was, but I think it’s important to understand how unfair it is to make many thousands of people undertake an action, regardless of how small it is, just so they don’t accidentally break the community rules and get ridiculed for it.

It’s the mods fault for structuring a community in a way that gives them more work, if they actually used a private community feature or a completely different software that’s intended for this kind of thing, it would be a different story.

Here’s my take on it:

I think we do deserve a private community of only women where women can have a safe place to talk about whatever they want without men. The problem is that this is not a private community, lemmy and piefed are fundamentally public spaces, not private, it is impossible and unreasonable to have a private community.

Perhaps in the future we’ll gain the ability to make real private communities where users must be approved to view posts, but that’s not today.

The mods of the community have the idea that it’s everyone else’s problem, that tens of thousands of people should go out of their way to remedy the issue by blocking the community just so a couple hundred (thousand?) people can have no responsibility for it.

I participated in the community at the beginning of its existence (despite my username, I am not a guy), and have long since left and blocked it because I really hated how the mods treated others. Maybe it’s changed over the last 6 months or whatever, but they’ve left a permanent impression on me.

I prefer an 8, but would also do 7 or 9. Anything less is too firm for me, and the taste is oddly sour, anything larger is way to soft and way too fucking sweet, like, to the point that it just tastes awful.

Oh holy shit this is fire. I never realized that’s what TACO stood for either lol

What a dumb idiot no brain cell having fool

:3

It says, while engaging

I ALWAYS bring my sunglasses with me, it doesn’t matter what the weather is, because if it gets sunny while I’m out, I need them to see because my blue eyes are hypersensitive, basically making it painful to open my eyes outside.

So let me get this straight, are you saying you wanna pet my pussy? That’s kinda gay bro ;3

At least it seems pretty easy to disable? From the way they’re talking about it, it’s just a single click on a big banner in the edge window. But still, come on microslop

+1 for MoCA, for a while I had to have my server in my room because I didn’t have anywhere else with Ethernet, it got so damn hot in here and it was louuud. But I finally learned about moca, ordered an adapter for it and moved the server to the basement. It has worked perfectly so far. The only issue I’ve had is that one time, it started having like 50% package loss, resetting the adapter fixed it though

Oh Debra, she’s so craaazzzyyyy

The worst thing I’ve ever seen ❤️

Yeah, that’s exactly right, if I’m asked a question that doesn’t make sense, I’ll ask a clarifying question, if they don’t provide a suitable answer, then fuck ‘em

Is this Kirkland as in the Costco brand? Cause if so, hell yeah, their shit is so damn comfortable. Otherwise, I’ve never heard of this Kirkland we’re speaking of

I wear shorts throughout the year. For whatever reason my legs just really don’t get cold, only my feet