How does running a server, assuming it’s used some amount of internet bandwidth, handle residential internet speeds? If I’ve got a gig up and down, can I reasonably run like a jellyfin for my friends?

Right now I have 3 sources:

• mate drinks like Mio Mate (found in Germany) and that’s 100 mg a bottle which is all I’ll have a day unless I’m really feeling it (so max 200).
• black coffee which I hand grind and brew via aeropress. Just one cup normally. I don’t have any idea how many mg that is but it feels as fast as the mate although maybe anecdotally weaker.
• loose leaf tea, which I brew once or twice a day, using old leaves from the day before (if I’m on a streak) and a splash of new ones (unless it’s the first day where it’s all new). Feels slower but lasts longer so maybe it’s more caffeine? I guess it depends on if I’m doing black or green or white etc.

So I’d guess 100-150 mg on average on days where I’m having caffeine. I try to do long breaks between a couple weeks of having it. So like a week or two of drinking caffeinated drinks and a week or two not having it. Not too stringent but just something I’m cognizant of to not get dependent.

Because from what I can tell Matrix isn’t a good Discord replacement. I’ll spin up a server just to trial it, but every person I’ve talked to who isn’t already on Matrix and every thing I’ve seen or read says it’s not a discord replacement, it’s just a chat app.

Stoat and Fluxer can be self-hosted which is my main desire. Something fully under my control, with my data security, that won’t rely on another service to keep it running (although naturally I rely on the code base being maintained, hence donating as if it was a paid product).

Alright, stoat or revolt or anyone else, you’ve got 6 months. I’ll move my group over in 6 months and donate to the best solution. Thanks everyone for pushing back against discord, to the indie devs who are working on alternatives, and to the self-hosting community for making it possible for me to even plan to move off of discord.