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  • I was redoing the roof on my house, and I had some family over helping me do that.

    For context, I live in a geodesic dome home, and so it’s not as simple as scrape off old roof, slap on new roof, you also have to account for the angles of the hundreds of triangles that comprise the roof.

    Further, instead of using a cedar shake, which was what was already on there, I decided to use an aluminum shake. The main reason was cost. Cedar shake was going to cost about $10 a square foot, whereas aluminum shake only cost me about $1 a square foot.

    Even though my home is 2600 square foot and in a normal flat roof house that would mean you would have somewhere between 2600 and 3000 square foot to cover, because it’s a dome, it curves, you have a lot more wastage and so I was looking at buying about 4000 square foot of shake.

    Going aluminum extended the lifespan of the roof from a 25 year to a 50 year, which is nice, and also cut $30,000 out of the cost.

    However…

    Once we got the old roof off, my family members decided that they didn’t want to do this anymore, and they left.

    So I had to, all of a sudden, call around and find someone else to help me install the roof.

    You remember that $30,000 I saved buying aluminum shake instead of cedar shake?

    That’s what it cost for me to get the aluminum shake installed after the old roof had been peeled off, not counting what I paid my family members for the help that they did provide in the interim.










  • The best answer I can think of is it depends, and it’s always on a case-by-case person-by-person basis.

    It’s like finding out that a famous painter whose art you really like did a murder suicide.

    In some cases, that could actually add to the allure, even though it’s horrible.

    But in the case of a musician that used their musical career to coax underage girls into performing sex acts for them, like the singers of the Lost Prophets, it’s a lot harder to separate the art from the artist.



  • bizarroland@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldWoke
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    12 days ago

    I am a somewhat empathetic person.

    I was raised in a family of people that had no empathy.

    My grandmother met all of the criteria to be labeled as a sociopath, psychopath, something, and she raised her kids accordingly.

    So when I was a kid, like my little sister would grab my arm and rake her nails down my arm to just grate as much skin off as she could because she was upset over something.

    And I would complain, and I would be told that maybe I shouldn’t have upset her.

    And also being a kid, sometimes I would cry.

    And my grandmother came to me and was like, you’re bigger than her, why don’t you just do something about this?, implying that I should physically beat my younger sister up.

    And I said, I do do something about it. I cry.

    She thought that was hilarious. She told that story as a joke any time I was brought up for the rest of her life.

    To me, when I see someone else crying because of something I did, that causes me emotional pain because I’m normal.

    So I was attempting to cause emotional pain, not on purpose, but because I was actually hurt, as punishment for the action that my psychopath sister, who was raised by my psychopath mother, who was raised by my psychopath grandmother, had taken.

    But the concept of feeling emotional pain as the consequence of your action choosing to hurt another person is and was so alien to the people in my family that it being explained to them comes across as humor.

    Needless to say, I don’t associate with my family anymore. I have not talked to any person that I am blood related to in four months, and even that was just a quick text.

    People say I’m weird. Okay, I was raised by a very weird family in very weird circumstances, doing my best to be sane and normal in a weird situation.

    It’s very much the same for being woke when opening your eyes to be woke today is like eating lunch in a room full of dead bodies.