bearboiblake [he/him]

🏳️‍🌈 hi there, i’m blake! i’m a silly gay bear 🌀

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Cake day: February 25th, 2025

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  • This is gonna sound really terrible, but… I generally don’t recognize people by name so much… maybe something dyslexia related? I think there are a couple of rare exceptions, like the user with two letters and then four numbers in their name.

    I recognize lots of avatars, as I scroll around, but I don’t generally register the names or even descriptions of the images, just kind of like… my brain just remembers purplish-blob shape, red glowy circle, monochromatic goblet.

    Oh, and dancing banana, and blue name furry. I actually remember his, it’s Kolanki I think

    All of you users with no avatar, go get one so I remember you all please! It’s an accessability aid in a way :p


  • Flying Squid was an auto-block for me, as soon as I made my account. He always used to ban me because he couldn’t win arguments with me in the comments.

    Edit to spill the tea:

    Hello Lemmy.world admin team, I am writing to complain about the conduct of the moderator FlyingSquid.

    On two occasions I have had negative interactions with FlyingSquid on the /world community, both times he has used, or threatened to use, his moderator powers against me, because of his personal disagreements with me.

    I am happy to refer you to both conversations:

    link 1

    In this conversation, we had a long conversation about laws and politics. Personally, I feel he acted in bad faith on several occasions throughout our conversation, in my opinion, he was trying to bait me into getting upset so he could righteously ban me.

    And your silly prediction is wrong. I am not going to ban you for this despite the incivility rule violation. I am just going to stop talking to you.

    But you have just earned yourself the eye of a moderator who will not tolerate your rule-breaking with anyone else. Including if I see any in your recent history.

    More recently, we had a conversation today:

    link 2

    Again, in this conversation, he was, in my opinion, highly rude, dismissive and arguing in bad faith. He even admitted as much. I said I wasn’t interested in talking with him, he continued to push me for an answer, and then said:

    You didn’t let me down, because I knew you didn’t actually have an answer

    I completely understand that sometimes people get heated or struggle to deal with arguments where they care about the topic, so I am totally willing to look past that. However, I am not willing to look past his abuse of power.

    What a bullshit cop-out. I have asked you multiple times what the next step is and you’re now claiming I’m not interested?

    That’s two lies you’ve told about me now. That is coming close to trolling. This is seemingly a pattern for FlyingSquid - goading people he disagrees with into becoming frustrated with his bad-faith arguments, then accusing them of “trolling” when the people he experiences push-back, and using that as an excuse to ban someone he disagrees with.

    I was writing a response to his post pointing out that he was arguing in bad faith when I accidentally submitted it half-way through, when he suspended me for “trolling”.

    I do not believe that he has the disposition to be a moderator if he gets so upset at a polite discussion that he feels compelled to use moderator powers to silence dissent. I go out of my way to be as polite, kind and compassionate as possible and to give people the benefit of the doubt, but I do not believe we should allow those in a position of trust or power to use that to settle their personal disputes. I know there has been some issues with that recently regarding the vegan community so I am hopeful that you will do the right thing and either remove his moderator powers or at the very least let him know that his abuse of powers is not tolerated.

    I would prefer not to make a community spectacle out of this, hence the email.

    Thanks and all the best,


  • Hahah! I’m actually gay, so I’d just be thrilled to meet them and wonder why they’re choosing to get their freak on in my apartment, of all places.

    I do have sex because my husband isn’t asexual, but yeah, I basically don’t think about sex, when I see sexual content my usual first reaction is kinda like “ew”. It’s not super revolting or anything, doesn’t really bother me much, but it’s like… idk, imagine if everyone was really into like, sharing pictures of shits they took and people really enjoyed toilet humor and sharing bathroom stories. It’s a bit like that.










  • Honestly, I think you’re misremembering, which is totally fair tbh, it’s been a while and you were a kid!

    Since I’m a loser with nothing better to do on a Saturday, I did a little research by watching LEGO commercials from the 80s and 90s, and there are dozens of depictions of boys playing with LEGO, and the relatively rare depictions of girls playing with them are for sets clearly designed for girls, such as Belville and Paradisa.

    If you check out this video from around 2:36 onwards, you can really clearly see the differences in how LEGO was marketed to girls, and to boys.

    There’s a whole jingle that went across the decades with the phrase “he’s a lego maniac”, and most LEGO sets fall into traditional “boys toys” categories (trains, police, knights, etc.). Even ads for the generic core sets with just the simple colored blocks depicted boys playing with them.

    Interestingly, though, almost all of the Duplo commercials depict both boys and girls playing with the toys together, but even those sets are quite gendered - doll houses for girls, for example.

    I don’t think I’ve seen a toy advert for a good 15 years or so, except for the infamous a man has fallen into the river in LEGO city commercial, I honestly have no real idea what they’re like now, but they were very gendered back in the day for sure!


  • I decided to investigate your claim because it smelled fishy - and yeah, you’re wrong.

    Foreign born women do have slightly higher birth rates than native-born women, but it’s nowhere close to 4-5 kids: between 2000 and 2010, native-born women had, on average, around 1.7 children each, compared to foreign-born women having on average, around 2.1 children each. However, because foreign-born women make up comparatively few of the Swedish population, this effect only increases the average birth rate by around 0.1 child:

    Furthermore, to hammer my own point home, income quartile has a much larger effect on birth rates, with the difference between income quartile 1 (0.9 births avg) and income quartile 4 (2.4 births average) having a much stronger effect:

    So, yeah, it’s not video games, and it’s not really a migration issue. As I said in my original reply, it’s a lot more to do with financial security and stability.



  • You’re totally right. The reason it happened was because video game systems were considered “toys” back in the day, and the marketing for toys was generally extremely polarized back then, all part of the social conditioning for patriarchy. Girls got to play with baby dolls, tea sets and toys inspired by domestic labor such as cooking and cleaning, and boys got to play with toys themed around heavy machinery, sports, combat/war and so on, all to prepare, socialize and condition them for the gender roles they were/are expected to perform in society.

    Early video games were often sports or combat/war themed, so they became toys for boys, and ended up in a positive feedback loop. I would guess that the reason that sports and war themed video games were developed was because the people in charge of developing the games were also mainly men.

    Women were significantly sidelined from computers and technology in most of the world around the time video games were being developed despite being extremely significant in the early history of computers. Whole workforces of women extremely competent with programming were fired and replaced with men who had no idea what they were doing in places, setting technological advancement back significantly.





  • Some stupid people disagreed with you even when presented with evidence of Russia already having invaded Ukraine as recently as 2014. I am not those people. I am just looking at all of the history and propaganda on all sides with an understanding of international relations and I am seeing a very peaceful process considering this has been a civil war for decades.