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Cake day: November 11th, 2024

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  • yes people need friends. i need friends. ive tried the whole “get all your needs met by my romantic partner” thing. it works fine when times are good, but as soon as theres serious conflict or stress you need other people for support. your partner isnt perfect and neither are you, so in those bad times you share together you will see the worst of each other, and your needs wont be met. in time this breeds resentment and will lead to the end of the relationship. its a sad, lonely, empty existence going through life without friends you trust. you might not feel like it right now but eventually you will learn.




  • its happened a few times in my life so i dont have an exact quote. i always wanted to be a part of something bigger than myself, be on a team, make something with my friends, help someone with their dream, whatever. i was basically told “you have no skills and no ability to help, so you would only get in the way”. it hurt so much to be deliberately excluded by people who i thought were my friends, to be told im worthless to them, im incapable of helping them. after a few of those i cant even bring myself to offer anymore, and no one ever asks. part of me doesnt see the point of living if this is how people see me.


  • just going to offer an alternative perspective here. im a trans woman and lean towards being a lesbian. i found myself similarly obsessed with women to various degrees throughout my life pre transition. part of it was certainly hormonal, just being really horny and lonely, but another part was the dysphoria and intense gender envy i would get seeing attractive women just existing. i wanted to be them so badly, but i didn’t realize it because it went along with my sexual desire so often. things got better when i was in a relationship but it never really stopped. nothing i did seemed to resolve those feelings.

    a couple years ago i realized im trans and a bit after started hormonal transition. the sexual obsession stopped pretty much immediately and i felt much better about my attraction to women. it feels much healthier and less insistent now. part of that was the temporary drop in my libido, but girl horny feels so different and just better to me.

    i see a lot of myself in how you describe your feelings, so i figured id mention the possibility that you could be trans too. no one can tell you whether you are or not but you, so it might be worth exploring, just to see.



  • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldMarriage
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    12 days ago

    way to assume the gender and orientation of everyone involved based solely on their genitals. this could be mmm, fff, fmm, ffm, nnn, mnn, mmn, fnn, ffn, or fmn for all we know. that ranges over all the possible kinds of gay, and there are more possible gay states than straight ones, so statisdickally this is most likely to be gay.











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    25 days ago

    just want to remind people that humans have been shaving various areas of their bodies for thousands of years. they did it in ancient Rome. we’ve probably been removing body hair for much longer than that even. it’s not a modern thing it’s just the fashion right now. personally idgaf whether other people remove their body hair or not. I like to though, it feels nice and makes me feel sexy.