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Cake day: September 13th, 2023

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  • Actual advice:

    Your job is not to explain to the person what they are feeling is not real or rational. This is actively unhelpful. The experience is very very very real to the person undergoing it.

    Remember that your body is chemicals. There are chemical systems that exist to tell you that you are in immediate, life threatening danger. These chemicals are able to override everything else - it is clearly evolutionary favorable to be able to just be on high alert sometimes.

    These chemicals override your ability to reason. In the moment, some sort of physiological, primal reminder of safety. Food is good. Lying down. Touch and kind words from someone you feel safe around. Something that tells your body crisis is over and it is time to activate the parasympathetic nervous system.

    Breathing exercises can be good, but if you do them like a drill sergeant that can make things much worse.

    I’m fortunate at this point I think that I’ve burned out my body out with caffeine and high danger activities, along with experiencing something like Christian hell in a bad weed trip. I don’t think I react properly to danger anymore, but I don’t experience panic attacks annymoe either.










  • Your internal critic just gets overwhelmed by your internal cheerleader telling you everything you’re doing is awesome and it makes it much easier to just get something onto the page.

    The only way I was able to finish my final paper in college was adderal + weed + booze. I used to be completely unable to write anything because the internal critic.

    Now, I do 5 minute free writes on paper. Set a timer, no corrections, do not stop writing until the timer goes off, reword the sentence you just wrote if you can’t think of anything else.

    Also weed still. Weed lets me write and write, and write…


  • Can you give me individual numbers of those incidents versus incidents of violent rape, domestic violence, and statutory rape?

    Yes. Bad people exist everywhere.

    On the whole, the system is set up to help bad men. There is systemic oppression of women. The fact that the US elected a man who went on tape proudly described sexually assaulting women indicates this. The fact that every woman in my immediate line was teenager impregnated by an adult man. The fact every teenage girl is taught to how to put the keys between her knuckles as she walks somewhere late, the way that packs of adolescent boys or “men in a car” have been a signal of instant threat to all women ever.

    I got dog whistled as a teen. I dressed about as strange as I could be I can still go find a Facebook message of relative who confessed things to me. It’s just universal if you grow up female.

    Which gender is in prison for violent crimes? What are the leading causes of deaths for pregnant women?