You guys are insane. Unusual people exist. Lemmy DMs are visible by instance admins. Ask them if they see any DMs that looks suspicious.
And then maaybe stop defaming her? Like, this post should be ban worthy by any reasonable instance and community rules?
Is it me or is it always the 50 years olds that say this shit? Like idk maybe you guys are particularily bad at guessing how gen Z behaves. I definitely know at least one woman IRL that would post like that. Two if I’m being generous. Not a majority but they fucking exist. And it turns out Lemmy isn’t exactly filled with the most normal normies.





The issue isn’t how unlikely the situation is, it’s “why would you choose harrassment”.
He is not just saying that she is a man, he is saying that she is a scammer. In your 90% chances that she is a man, she might also be trans-adjacent (everyone knows there are no horny trans on lemmy), and still not be a scammer. It is trivial to find out whether she is in fact a scammer, as all communications are public. Scammers do not like niche platforms composed entirely of scam-hardened people where all communications are public.
I’m not going to make arbitrary numbers here, I’ll let you bayes-vibe your own. Given how easy it is to actually find out, and how likely he is to be defaming and how bad it could be for her, he should be contacting an admin rather than make public “meme” accusations. If he did in fact believe she was a scammer and could harm people, I hope he would try to get her banned rather than just be toxic for internet points and let people get scammed. Especially bad when the accusations are repeated, by him and different people.
BTW I think 90% chance is way too much. Anyways. I’ve been told it wasn’t very nice to spend my days transvestigating, and here are everyone running an excavation. But I guess it’s ok since everyone’s doing it :shrug: