Kindness is Punk

Google play music was one of the only good platforms I’d literally rather pirate and build manual syncing than use anything that’s out there

If you need lights that have more lumens then the sun to drive at night, you shouldn’t be allowed to drive at night

We all tired today

I understand the thought process, It’s the same one that leads people to say things like why do you care if people spy you already carry around a wiretap everywhere.

I just disagree with it, I understand things are bad and that software spying on us is ubiquitous but that’s why we need to fight back wherever we can

This happened to me except that straight up told them that was my bike and said I’m taking it now. I did verify that they weren’t in a dire financial state before I left though because if it meant they were not going to eat tonight, I wanted to make sure they were taken care of.

That we can agree on.

I myself am poly but I’ve been in a relationships where the other person wasn’t comfortable with it and agreed to monogamy and have been on the giving and receiving end of infidelity. As I’ve gotten older I’ve understood the damage I’ve done and how to properly engage with those feelings and have an open and honest discussion.

I think we actually agree more than it seemed. Feelings aren’t choices. Actions are. And the social punishment for failing at monogamy is often brutal and unfair. I just think two people can still freely say 'don’t act on it and if they both mean it, breaking that hurts. That’s all.

So am I correct in saying under your framework monogamy can never be chosen freely? Or would it be at more accurate to say that if it was chosen it’ll be chosen via action and not agreement?

It’s just someone manufacturing rage bait. Ignore them and they’ll go away

I empathize. Women are absolutely coerced into a role by modern society a habit we are sadly falling back into and that is horrible.

However, to say that no two people wish for a monogamous relationship and that trust ultimately doesn’t matter is a step too far for me. But I understand why someone would feel that way.

I too have seen people trapped in a loveless marriage.

If two parties agreed to it under no sense of duress then anyone who betrayed the mutual trust required is making a selfish choice.

If your feelings toward the agreement change you need to have a discussion with the other person.

You can say they’re antiquated for agreeing to it, you can even say that it’s an unrealistic expectation but if it’s consensually agreed to it’s about trust in your partner’s word

Pleasure Killer

I love black beans in chili

I know this is just a shit post so I’m not taking it seriously just more using it as a tangent to talk about something that’s been rooting around in my brain for a while.

I have always lived below my means. If I want something I write it down and then if I still want it in a month I’ll think about it but the most important thing to me is that if I buy something I’ll actually use it.

If I won the lottery I don’t think my life would change that much. I know everyone says this but I really mean it. I would probably just donate it.

I simply do not need more money and there are so many people that could really use that money to feed themselves, to clothe themselves. Maybe it’s easier to say now but I don’t think so.

I’ve always had the money to buy a car, hell, at some points I’ve had enough to do it in cash but I’ve always taken the bus.

I like to maintain a certain amount of capital for a rainy day but if my needs are taken care of and I can reasonably be assured that nothing’s going to happen to me I’ve donated any extra to my local food bank.

I always liked Hank Green’s series on Complexly “Ask Hank Anything” where he tries to learn about people from the questions they ask him.

The antidote for a world that denies truth is strategic nonsense.

… Yet.

We should absolutely regulate the way cars lock down software or obstruct the right to repair.

Now that’s believable

TJ and I will be a good time