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  • Oh yeah, happens a lot when parents or the kid are in the system.

    For this kid, essentially, although they didn’t prep me as his case worker, had to be put in foster care to keep his other sibling safe. He had assaulted her in some degree that wasn’t disclosed to me, and they still attended family sessions together so I’ve always been unsure of the severity.

    Anytime there’s a court involved with kids being taken from parents, temporary or otherwise, a foster care situation will take place over any group home type thing and will be the preferred placement where possible and safe.

    Had one young girl who’s parents regularly missed visitations because she was moved states after the father visited the foster home (shouldn’t have had the address, all assumed the daughter passed it on). She was moved out of state to a foster home in the region I worked in, she knew her parents, but hadn’t seen them in person in more than a year, mostly because both parents were addicts and both were on the last straw with the courts, and the dad’s vibes and frequency of calls suggested he wasn’t planning on seeing her again. That girl had to be moved after she bit a chunk of cheek off of her foster placement mom, the sweetest lady I’d met in my time there who had just gotten approved to foster and this was her first placement.

    Social work sucks



  • “Cognitive Behavioral Approaches are the most effective means of recognizing negative patterns in real world scenarios and correcting those behaviors is a matter of will and repetition”

    And, she was right, as far as I was concerned. I’m not ‘fixed’, but I can tell when my own patterns have kicked in and I’m in a spiraling loop, and the tools/knowledge of kicking that loop with new actions in an attempt to break the pattern has been really helpful.

    The most important thing I learned were strategies to handle the panic attacks. The knowledge of flooding the brain with physiological responses through focus on sensations and objects within my immediate vicinity has been instrumental in grounding me to the present. The panic attack still comes, but it’s not as long and I’m not left exhausted, sweaty, and emotionally dead as often as I was.

    The mumbo jumbo softer side (I went to school for psych, my BA says I get to say this) of Psych is really good for a lot of things. The practical side of Psychology is really good for most if not all people.