Asking for a friend. No seriously, I’m trying to figure out how to best explain this to a friend as I’m having trouble enumerating how I can do it.
I’m not qualified, but something that might aid in your efforts is focusing on the flaws inherent in getting fulfillment from other people and the cycle of misery it can bring when it doesn’t pan out exactly as you intended. See: codependency. Obviously don’t phrase this like you won’t be there for them, but more just that they need to be there for themself too.
amen. seeking fulfillment in others is the surefire way to be miserable. the most miserable people I have known were the ones who entirely derived their worth from others approval, and often it was so bad they had no internal validation mechanisms and often very poor internal regulation and they were seeking someone external to do their regulation for them.
Cats. Cats and some hobbies that i can do alone(gardening, cycling, baking). And cats.
Did i mentioned cats? And cats.
Have you leash trained your cats so they can garden with you? I’ve been trying but man is it a pain
my cat did. he used to dig up the soil and he would lay in the garden to defend it from rabbits. he was an amazing garden cat.
he even caught a couple and he ate one of them.
“Our bread chokes you, and raw coney chokes me.” - Samwise Gamgee talking to your cat
