Background: I was recently doomscrolling the All page when I found a post bashing a specific topic that’s somewhat personal to me. It was obvious that the OP was making a rage post, but gave it a read. I responded with my two sense countering OP’s perspective (in what I thought was a respectful manner). Admittedly, I did not read the rules of the community I posted in, but ive found if your civil most people will deal with you in good faith. Apparently that community is not a place that disagreement to the perspective OP expressed is tolerated. I had my post deleted and was banned from the community for my comment (I know its not hard to dredge up the details, but don’t want to name names cause that’s not really the point).
I keep finding myself dwelling on the whole experience and keep raging about how things played out. I know I’m better off not dealing with that community and frankly wish I’d never discovered it. The whole ordeal is becoming a major distraction from daily life and I don’t like the effects is having on my headspace.
So I suppose, how do you all deal with your brain dwelling on dumb interactions with mal-intented people? Lol, the ideal suggestion should not involve any tones of revenge.
I do some repetitive tasks at work that trigger intrusive thoughts. Sometimes they are absurd, sometimes old memories, sometimes an annoying person that I barely know that slight me in big or small ways.
I let the happy one come and go but I try to block the ones that are useless, where you know that you are drinking the poison you should give to the person in your thought instead (don’t poison people though). And just the thought of blocking them make them pop even more often.
So instead I decided to expect and even wait for the bad thoughts to come, and just be like “ah, there you are, thought”. They become less threatening and annoying when you expect them and roll your eyes at them when they effectively do. That worked more or less for me.