We just met, so I don’t know him that well, but he was honest from the beginning. He says he’s still married because of their son, and because his wife doesn’t want to get divorced right now. Apparently, South Korea has a fault-based divorce system. TIL.
I was married already when I met my now wife. My first wife lived overseas and we hadn’t been together for about 8 years.
Our two children lived with me, but we didn’t have a separation or legal custody agreement. Doing all of that internationally, getting all the documents professionally translated, court dates, etc. was extremely challenging.
So we waited several years until both kids were legally adults and we just had to deal with the divorce (which itself took almost 3 years) before making things official.
That said, my case is much less typical than a guy just lying about his domestic circumstances.