Edit: I know this isn’t a trouble shooting forum, but I’m marking it solved because I’ll just hide vote counts in my app (Voyager) from now on.
So I know there’s a whole thing about not taking votes seriously, but if I’m having a good faith discussion with someone, and I KNOW they’re the only person reading my comment reply in an older thread, and they downvote me, how am I not supposed to take it as a “fuck you” button?
I mean, here I am, honestly talking to you as AN INDIVIDUAL because ain’t nobody else reading this, and I’m writing a few paragraphs about my perspective to share with you personally, and your ONLY reaction is to downvote me because we don’t share the same exact opinonm even though we might be on the same side generally?
Fuck me, bro? No, FUCK YOU!
Is this emotionally immature of me? I mean, I don’t know. Like, if you were having a discussion in public with someone and they just rolled their eyes and walked away, and this KEPT happening, how long before you just stop leaving the house entirely?
To me, it’s incredibly fucking rude.
Edit: I know it’s possible it’s not the person I’m talking to downvoting me, but it most likely is.
Well, I guess it just sort of echoes my real life is why I have a problem with it. I’ve been at an organization for six years and seen that I’ve never had an opportunity for advancement despite being really qualified. My going theory is that, because I very mildly autistic (peer-reviewed), that I’m too “blunt” and doesn’t do enough social greasing, so, basically, people don’t like me; so I guess that’s why I’m overly sensitive to my contributions not being welcome on the internet when I’m discussing a topic with people.
There is definitely an art to including yourself in conversations. It’s easy to just lore-dump when you have deep passion or knowledge, rather than understanding what OP (or third parties if you are disagreeing with an intransigent OP) actually want or need to hear. I’ll let you know when I’ve mastered it. 😆